Old and New Generation

A group of school friends are discussing about our kids on how they will be as a person 10 years from now, how their behavior n manners will be. 

Often mothers are afraid, how my child will be when he will be grown up. Will he be cool dude type or a typical bookworm, or an obedient son with the straight thoughts, or will he be arrogant or too polite.

Uff, stop ladies, give a pause to your superfast thoughts. Think, Is it in our hands? The answer could be partially YES and NO.

Let’s rewind and remember the time to compare the new and old generation. There was a time when younger’s touch the feets of their parents every morning to start the day. That shows respect towards the elders. Slowly the tradition has come to end and now almost vanished. Does any one of us practice this except on the special occasions of birthday and festivals? So shall I conclude that we don’t have any respect for our elders? Nope, we do have but things changed with the time, so as we.

There are unending things of previous era to compare the situation with. Back then we had only Doordarshan to watch. Cartoon shows will come only on Sunday. We used to say “Vadanikawal gheta” before every meals and “Shubhankaroti” every evening as a ritual. We learnt this from our family and surrounding and gratually adapted it but now when we lived in the fast ultra competitive world these things are left behind. Though it’s sad but it’s a undeniable fact.

So I feel let’s not think about 10-15 years from now but have faith and give your child the best of what you have learnt and give much more. It depends on the child how he adapts it. Once they are grown up they will have their own thought, own beliefs and their own world. For now it’s just impossible to predict his nature and personality for future.

Be wise and be friends with you children from now. No wonder, the next generation will be much faster and technology based. New generation is going to be broad minded and they would like freedom. In order to bridge the generation gap, we have to be broad minded too and allow them the space. Make them feel comfortable so they will find it easy to communicate anything and everything with you. Things actually changed with the time and it is an ongoing process. Like Lord Krishna says in Bhagavad-Gita, “Purani riti aur parampara tutegi tabhi to naye dharma ki sthapana hogi” Change is the nature’s rule.

Like we are two steps ahead to our parent’s generation, this new generation will step four times to our generation.

Please do not compare our kids with the great personality like Shivaji Maharaj or Bhagat singh. To make them one, ask yourselves if you are Jijabai.

Every child’s first Guru is his Mother as she is the one to give the morals and ethics. A mother plays imperative role to create her child’s personality. They will learn what they see in family, friends and surroundings. So it’s your responsibility to provide him the healthy surrounding. Guts and determination comes when we face the challenges in our lives.

Whatever is in our hand we certainly will give. As they grow up I doubt if they would like to be how we were. The only possible thing is to have faith on our upbringing. What we sow will grow up some day. So be friendly, guide them, support them, secure them.

All I feel and request you all Mothers not to get panic. Focus on making him/her a good human being first and then a multi talented personality. Let him fall down and get up at his own. Make him familiar with the words like “Honesty” “Relationship” “family” “friends” “Hard work and never give up”

We as a person are part of our parent’s body sharing the similar feelings and values so as our kids are vital part of our body and certainly share the same feelings and values too.

Happy Parenting to all of you!!!

Stay happy!!
Stay blessed!!

Regards,
Snehal